ADHD, Masking, & Burnout
What would it feel like to stop editing yourself?
It’s exhausting trying to make sure you’re doing it right.
That “it” could be how you are at a party, or at work, or at the grocery store. And it probably worked pretty well for a while! But you know you want to find a way to just be all of who you are, without having to monitor yourself or edit. You might have an inkling that the unedited version of you would be really awesome to inhabit.
You’re in the right place if:
You feel “too much" or "not enough" or sometimes both, simultaneously
You were recently diagnosed with ADHD or autism (or you suspect you might be)
You've been through therapy before but it felt too surface-level, too cognitive, or like you were performing "good client"
You struggle with burnout, people-pleasing, or feeling like you're constantly managing everyone else's experience
Regulating your nervous system feels like a full-time job
You have a complicated relationship with food, your body, or control
You're in a non-traditional relationship and need a therapist who doesn't make that the whole focus
You're exhausted from masking and you're not even sure who you are underneath it
Here's what I think is actually going on:
You probably got all kinds of signals that you were "wrong" as a kid, long before anyone thought to wonder about a diagnosis. And that felt awful — or maybe it felt life-or-death. So you did what made sense: you tried your best to fit in. You watched the "normal" people who didn't seem to be getting it wrong all the time, and you learned to act like them. That became your whole operating system.
Maybe you translate that "wrongness" onto your body. Maybe you sought out food for the dopamine your brain wasn't getting elsewhere. Maybe you tried to control the size of your body because it was the one thing you could control. Maybe you became the person who takes care of everyone else, because that was the safest role available. This therapy isn’t going to treat them as isolated symptoms or disorders. Instead, we’ll look at the whole pattern.
In our sessions, we pay attention to what’s happening in real time. I'm neurodivergent myself.
That doesn't mean I know exactly what your experience is like, because your brain is yours, and we'll figure out how it works together. But it does mean you won't have to explain why small talk is draining, or why you need a minute before you answer, or what it costs to mask all day. That stuff is already understood here. It’s happening in your body, or how you relate to your feelings or parts of yourself.
My Approach
My approach is rooted in AEDP (Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy), a model built around the idea that deep change happens through embodied connection. It’s gentle and takes things slowly, which allows real breakthroughs, like pride or self-understanding, to show up in meaningful ways.
We’re here to meet and celebrate all of you. No editing required.
